The Money Objection

While there are numerous reasons for suffering not all of them impact us in the same way. For example, our relationship with food hits us the strongest during meal times and when we look in the mirror. Our relationship with our parents don't really impact us every single day once we move out and start our own families.

One of the most ominous, debilitating, and yet ubiquitous reasons to suffer has to do with money. Do you feel like you make enough of it? Do you have enough? Do you worry you might run out of it? It's such an interwoven subject too. Our moneymaking ability can relate to our self-perception, how we view other people, jealousy, inferiority, and so on.

It doesn't just stop at our inner relationships. Money is also societal. Most of our monetary resources are staying in a giant reservoir of the 1%, doing nothing but accruing itself while 99% of the population live in a great relative poverty compared to the 1%, including actual poverty that leads to death.

As a life coach who happens to run a life coaching business online, I can also tell you that the biggest objection I face when it comes to client acquisition is the objection around money. People want to solve their problems and they're excited at the prospect of it, and then they're met with the reality of paying and their expression just freezes.

The thing is, nobody tells you how to think about money. At the same time it's nobody's business because our relationship with money is ours. Then what is a good objective, truth-based starting point we can have with money? With that we can build upon the relationship with want with money.

Here's a generally great starting point. We feel bad about spending when we feel like it was a waste. We didn't get our money's worth, and we don't know how we're going to make our money back from the spending. This can apply to food, investment, purchase, or anything else. We start getting this idea that "we're a bad spending, we're irresponsible" and it starts snowballing from there.

That needs to be re-written, and re-examined going into the future. Take a look at the spending you did most recently. Think of the moment you decided to spend that money. What was the tipping point in that decision process? In the end, did the decision pay off? If so, then it wasn't a meaningless spend; we just needed the opportunity to view it in that way. If not, then it was a lesson fee for teaching you what to know for the next time you make a decision.

Let me give you an example. Recently I've had to pay about $30k for some home repair work. This kind of stuff would have eaten me alive in the past, but prior to signing the contracts I made sure to talk to multiple contractors and have me walk through why they need to charge this much. How did I know to do this? Because I learned sorely from old mistakes when I just blindly paid people to get rid of a discomfort as soon as possible.

I invested a few thousand dollars into advertisements recently. I could feel the buyer's remorse kick in when I started thinking the ads aren't really providing the traction I thought it would. Instead of burying my face in the pillow to run away from reality, I decided to take the matter into my own hands and book a call with my team to get them to walk me through what's happening and why the expectations aren't matching reality. This way, I'm making sure that I'm getting my money's worth.

How do you feel when you're about to spend money? Watch that story change as you continuously re-visit all of your past expenditures. My old coach told me every line item in my credit card bill is like a love letter to myself, it's me giving me the moon. I started feeling better about spending money TODAY when I re-identified how I spent money in the past.

This is mindfulness in action. Mindfulness in how you decide to spend money. After it is spent, mindfulness in getting what you intended to get out of it. Following through on the original decision when things don't unfold in the way you expect. We're used to the relationship where the provider gives you the value of the money you spent. You spend a few hundred dollars at a Michelin starred restaurant, you expect a meal that's deserving of that price. But in the end, we are the ones who are responsible for making sure that price's value is attained.

I anticipate that anyone who's considering Launch Pad or life coaching with me is going to go through something similar before they invest in themselves through me. Whether you're spending $5 or $500 or whatever other amount with me, I commit myself to providing you with what I have on my end. Now all that's needed is your mindful commitment.

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Billy Seol

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July Life Coach
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