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Well, I just announced my departure yesterday but I’ve gotten a great influx of supportive messages for me. I wanted to say THANK YOU for all the support you’ve expressed over email, IRL talk, zoom call, DM’s, and what have you.

There are some recurring themes I’ve heard, and one of them is how I’m in such a good time to be making a move like this. I don’t have kids, I’m in my 30’s, I have a business of my own… Even my boss had recently come back from a European vacation and told me they were contemplating living and working from there, but they couldn’t realistically think of a way to do it with their job and family.

This tells me something I’ve thought about in my Buddhist training. Many of the things in our life that we worked for, we cherish; these things ironically end up being shackles of our lives. They prevent us from making changes because now that we have them in our lives, change means we will lose them and it is in human nature to be loss-averse.

I’ve contemplated quitting many many times before, and what stopped me was things like…

1. I won’t be able to go to Disneyland freely
2. I’ll lose a lot of my stocks that haven’t vested
3. I won’t have health insurance
4. I’ll look bad on LinkedIn (this is actually something I seriously thought about a lot)
5. My parents and in-laws won’t have something to be proud of in me without my title

As long as we have something we’re attached to in our lives, it will be hard to make life changes. As long as we can detach from anything in our lives to be completely free drivers of our own lives, it is always a good time to make life changes.

But let’s stop talking about me for a second. I’ve been doing a lot of content creation coaching recently and the foundation for my content creation coaching is this:

The skill I’m having everyone work on is the first skill, #microposting. I note in the explanation that your primary obstacle in microposting will be perfectionism. Now that people have been microposting for a bit, here’s the three definitive branches of feedback I’ve gotten:

• 100% of the people who micropost see a benefit from doing it
• 100% of the actual difficulty in microposting is perfectionism
• 100% of the people who don’t micropost state perfectionism as the reason

This is not new to me, even in my action formula the divisor to desire for action is perfectionism. Perfectionism by itself doesn’t completely remove the desire to create, but it significantly reduces the desire. But since my job is to coach people towards their personal goals, it’s important for me to lead them to action despite perfectionism.

Perfectionism is, in the theme of today’s writing, an attachment to a self-image. There’s an idea of you that you need to be, and if any of your actions aren’t in line with that idea you can’t do it. The unfortunate thing is, we cannot be good at everything we do.

This is a simple fact of life. I can’t be a good diver if I haven’t even stepped into a pool in my life. I can’t be a ice skater if I haven’t even ridden a roller blade before. Whatever form of you you want to develop into, it is highly likely that you are not that form right now.

Which means you have to work towards that form. But imagine working through that process with a seething hatred of yourself because you’re not who you want to be today. Regardless of how you feel, how you are today is the you that you are today. No amount of self hatred will change that.

Microposting is easy. It is almost unfair how easy it is, and yet I think it’s of substance enough that you can call yourself a content creator simply by microposting. Wait, that’s it? That’s all it takes to be a content creator, just expressing something whenever you feel inspired to? Yeah, because that’s literally what creating content is, right?

There is no standard of what is content or not. As long as it has a URI, it is content from a technical perspective. It is our minds that decide what is content or not, what is good content or bad content. Microposting gives you the most important decision you need to make: Are you going to be the you in your head, or are you going to be a content creator?

If you choose the latter, you have to go through the process of begrudgingly biting the bullet.

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The Begrudging Biting of the Bullet ​https://ck.julylifecoach.com/posts/the-begrudging-biting-of-the-bullet​

But it’s not all bad. Take it from my students and clients: microposting is worth it. You won’t believe how liberating it feels to just speak what’s on your mind.

With that said, sometimes we are at a point in our lives where we need to tend to the inner self-image. I know I said some scathing things about this self-image, but there are legitimately times where the mind is shell-shocked from an external attack and it needs time to strongly re-calibrate to a sense of self.

If you are considering being a content creator IN THAT KIND OF A STATE, I would advise that you work with someone who can guide you through the process of inner safety. Whether that person is me or not is less important.

Freedom from attachment doesn’t mean elimination of what you were attached to. People who stop compulsive eating still eat. People who give up smoking still have a good time at parties. People who stop trying to make a million bucks still make money.

In that sense, I would recommend freedom to anyone. That’s why I do my work. But regardless of where you are in your life today, I see you for who you are today and appreciate, witness you completely.

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